I got this comment many times with my last relationship and felt even more confident hearing it.
This is probably the most challenging thing to overcome when dating an older guy. Although you can’t change a man (or even a woman for that matter), the key is to bend for one another so both of your needs are fulfilled.
When you come across an older man and learn he’s single, have you ever found yourself saying to your friends, “There’s a reason he’s alone and still single”? This comment might make him and even you feel insecure.There’s always a reason, but the best thing is not to push. The important thing is how you two feel about one another and the good times you share.I had a normal childhood, but I have been living in the “adult world” since I was a kid. I was around adults all my life -- events, parties, meetings -- so I really knew it no other way.The only thing probably missing in my life is a partner, a published book and an owned property… To elaborate even further, I’m an only child, and growing up, I never had many close friends. I was teased and picked on a lot from the kids at school. I guess that’s where I began the attraction for the older man type, and it used to freak my mother out.He’s confident and can teach you a thing or two with his advice. This is great for me, since I am a whirlwind during the week and it balances me out.
He may be older, but he’s learned a lesson or two about making money, saving money and balancing his checkbook. He’s been through multiple ups and downs in relationships, and his feelings are in check. With endless kisses, hugs and soft lit candles, he goes the distance to make sure you are happy and satisfied.When I would go away on trips and had my guy take care of my apartment, I always came home to flowers on the table, chocolate or homemade gifts. Besides feeling good together in public, you look great together, too.Even though there have been those people who have judged, you’ll be surprised that there are more people on your side than you think.I always seem to date guys between 10 to 20 years older than me, and from my relationships comes some of the best memories and experiences.I still get the common response from my friends: “He’s too old for you! ” I’ve also had a few people in my life suggest that I do it because I am a "gold digger."So, the broad answer is this: To clarify, I’m not dating older men because I am a “gold digger.” It’s more important for me to pull my own weight and be financially stable.Being emotionally unavailable doesn’t mean he’s dead.